At first, we do things to find at seek out love. That coffee shop around the corner was appealing because we had no idea who would be there. That trip to Paris was for possible hopes of finding that romantic.
Once you have love, whether from that romantic, a friend, God, or you find love in yourself, then you find yourself going to coffee shops because you actually enjoy the coffee or simply relaxing with a book. You go to Paris just because you want to.
Instead of loving life to find something, you start living life because you have something.