I think for many people, we get told by the world and by Hollywood that we have to have another "something" to make us happy. We either have to have the new car, the new style, and/or another person. For me, I think I got caught up in the last one.
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always felt like something was missing in my life, and that it was another person. Many would say I never stayed in one spot because I was always on the go to do something else or experience something else. If I’m honest with myself, I like I was looking for my half. On that journey, I met a few wonderful guys that gave me more than a person could ask for, their heart. Who could ask for more?
I was still left empty. "Been around the world and I, still can’t find my baby…." as the song goes. But I found my baby, like I said, I dated some wonderful "perfect" guys. But something was missing, I was missing.
Random thoughts: How can you love someone else if you can’t love yourself? How can you give to someone else if you are always needing for them to give to you? Relationships are about two people, not one. It’s not about what can they give me to make me feel better about myself, or because I need them. It should be a desire, because I want them. Because I choose to be with them, not because I don’t have the strength to choose not to be with them. A person should be with you because they love you, "you" as a person, the person you are, not the idea of love or a relationship. It’s not love if you are with someone because they are a great person or because they fit a mold or would be a perfect match (which many of us do). The best definition of love is I Corinthians 13. Love is patient, love is kind, it is not selfish, does not seek it’s own.
We can be happy with ourselves. We can be happy with friends, with a passion, with dreams, with living in the now!
These are just some of the things that I’ve learned about love on this journey to finding "my baby." But at the end of the journy when you’ve found your baby, did you ever take the time to find yourself?